In exactly 3 months, what I have known to be a single life will begin in the plural. I will be legally and ceremoniously committed to the man I met and fell in love with almost 2 years ago.
I’ve never been one to dream about a wedding, to envision myself as a princess adored by a royal court. Rather, I had visions of walking along the beach with my partner in tow, barefoot and carefree, surrounded by those that are most dear to us. And that is almost what it will be. Though I will be wearing fancy shoes and the ceremony will overlook the sea from a church atop a cliff, slightly more formal than a beach party. A dream I never envisioned but anxiously anticipate.
In preparation, if you can actually prepare for such a momentous event, we are taking a marriage class as required by the Catholic Church. Little did we both know how insightful and wise would be the teachings, and not solely limited to a religious faith, but a spiritual and universal one. There is much to be gained from looking within yourself and asking questions you might not otherwise ask.
What have I learned thus far? Most of all, how truly essential it is to communicate. Effectively. And the many ways of doing that. And how trying this can often be. (Especially when dealing with all the stress of a wedding!) I remember my mom once telling me that the most important ingredient in any relationship, aside from love, is communication. (My mom is indeed a smart woman!)
As my journey into plurality continues, I think often of these words. Finally they make sense. Love is a not merely a feeling but a decision.
What a lovely post, and what sage words. Love is indeed both a feeling and a decision. I never thought about it that way before.
Congratulations to you on your upcoming nuptials and new phase of life. I don’t know you, but I wish you all the luck and joy possible as you forge ahead into this exciting and uncharted territory. May it be bliss.
Marisa, you are very kind, thank you! It’s been quite a journey! I’m looking forward to the new phase.
I too hadn’t realized love was based on a decision, after the initial feelings which we hope will never fade.
Beautiful post.
Three months?! I am so excited for you – enjoy this special time, both as a ‘single’ and the anticipation and work of going into a very committed relationship. You are a lucky girl! xo
Thank you! Looking forward to celebrating ‘life, love and pursuits…’ in NYC! (And in Paris!)
congrats kasia! excellent news xx
Thanks Michelle, hope all is well with you! xo
congratulations, this is unexpectedly yet the next natural step for this wonderful life of yours.
xc
Who would ever have guessed… May Paris and Bogota continue to dream! xo
Such lovely sentiment Kasia! I think you and your Italian have cleared the path perfectly for a happy union. It’s not easy but learning to fight respectfully and overcome obstacles together is part of the beauty of spending your life with someone! I can’t wait to see the photos from the wedding 🙂
I too look forward to seeing photos as well. I am certain it will be a joyous, bright and memorable day! Wishing you and yours only the best! Mwah!
The techie (my husband) always says the same thing – ‘You can’t say you fell out of love. Being in love is a conscious thing. ‘
I am so interested in reading your posts leading up to your wedding. You always have such a lovely way of capturing the sentiments. Screw Kate & William…your is definitely the wedding to watch! 🙂
I’m flattered Cat, thank you! Looking forward to sharing more pre and post wedding thoughts…